The Philosophy of Love

Where are we drifting...? It is a journey without any destination. There appears to be no destination. Only journey exists. A travel... a march... a voyage. No voyage ever ended. If journey was started then it has to end. But it appears to be an eternal journey which will never end. If it had to ended then it would have ended. And since it didn't end that means it will never end. So much time has elapsed. Travel in time in the backward direction. Go back in the history. Infinite years of history exist behind us. And infinite years of future is ahead of us. And between this two extremal only present exists. Perhaps, the only thing which ever existed was this very present moment. Present is nothing but the transcended form of past and future. When both past and future are transcended, the present persists. We do so many things. So many things we did. For what? To attain the stability. The moment you do something, you essentially try to nullify the cause of that work. This is tricky. Extremely tricky. The very nature of any kind of work is to nullify it's existence. Because the very core of the existence is void. Therefore, all our activity drifts towards the nullification of the existence. Any task or work tries to nullify it's cause. So, the whole humanity, infact the whole universe drifts towards the void. We may not observe it casually. But when you think calmly you would see it. Let me put few examples to support this fact. When I eat, that means I am nullifying the cause which had forced me to eat. So, after I eat that cause doesn't exist anymore. That was the purpose of eating. By eating I simply nullified the cause which had forced me to eat. It universally applies everywhere. We read so that we don't have to read that again. And this process is done best by love. Because love is an expression of heart. Heart doesn't know any mathematics. Mind knows mathematics. Then it will start calculating. And moment you calculate you cannot nullify the cause. The easiest way to nullify the cause is to transcend it. And nothing can transcend better than love. Therefore love has to be transcendental. Only a pure transcendental love can nullify the cause of existence and merge with truth. Mind cannot transcend. Because, it will be trapped in calculations. So, your love should be of very high order. Like Romeo and Juliet.

The reason why most of love marriage breaks is the absence of pure love. Love marriage will blossom only when they have pure love. Love marriage is a beautiful thing. But make sure you love him/her like anything. You can cross all the boundaries for him/her. In order to get him/her you are ready to even die. That much degree of love is required. You should cross the mountains, rivers, desserts for her. The other parameter of love is the sacrifice with no expected returns. Love her unconditionally. However, it doesn't seem feasible in today's world where everybody knows the language of RoL. Lol.

Love and Marriage - Part 2

I wanted to clarify once and for all that Love and Marriage is not same. People generally think that every marriage is a love and vice versa. Basically, they think love and marriage are same. No, they are not. But yes, they have some correlation to some extent. I'll come to that later. Let me refute this by the example of Jesus. Jesus was the most lovable person who ever walked on the earth. And he was not married according to New Testament. So, that gives a rough Idea that love is not necessarily marriage. Instead, love is fully transcendental. It happens at existence level. At root level. It doesn't understand social boundaries. Love is a divine word. But, the love you see in Hindi movies that's not the love I am talking. That's junk love. And that's what you have learnt. Only thing you know about love is it can be intercast. Except this you have no idea of what is love. Society is against of love. But society is not against of marriage. Society doesn't want to produce Laila-Majnu. But they want to produce married couple to produce baby. Society wants to survive. They want babies not the love. A two lovable (at existence level) person may not produce baby. But two married couple with no sprout of love will produce baby. That's what society wants. But there is an upper limit to it. Society should not just producing babies. It will be difficult to survive then. Because, natural resource are limited. Everybody will start fighting. World cannot sustain 100 B people. Current population is 6B and there are so many problems. Imagine when world's population is 100B. Then people will eat people. Then population will again reduce due to war or loss of natural resource. It may so happen that whole humanity will be finished.Excessive population will decrease the population. But it may decrease to the extent that there wont be any person on the earth. Lol. So, control the population. Produce less babies. It's better to produce 1 lion than thousands of goats. What you are producing is goats. Low temper people. These are all goats. And society further contribute to make them goats. We want people like Vivekananda like Buddha like Jesus. We don't want morons and low temper people. They all are goats. Lol. Produce healthy and wiser kids. Stop producing large number of morons. It's will ruin the humanity, one day. And for that to happen society once again has to start learning Love. Unless you love population control won't happen. So much population of India itself shows that marriage are not love based. It's flesh based. Fleshed based marriage will produce more flesh - that is babies. The entire Indian marriage system is flesh based. That's why India has so much population. Don't feel surprise when west says India as a baby factory. Indian marriage has done nothing except producing babies. The sole aim of Indian marriage is to produce babies. Increase population. To stop this - inculcate love. Love is the only solution to population. Infact love is the solution to all problems.

Love is not confined to single person unlike marriage. You can love a bird, a tree or a flower also. I am the lover of horizon. A non-ending vast horizon. Horizon is a place where space appears to be touching the earth's surface. But actually it doesn't. It gives me the insight of vastness of sky. Something like horizon can be also seen in meditation.

To summarize - Inculcate Love and control population.

Love and Marriage

What is the connection between Love and marriage? What is the relation between love and marriage?

Love is the matter of soul. Marriage is the matter of body. Sex is the central figure in the marriage. If you remove sex from marriage no one on the earth would like to marry. At least I wont. Lol. Love has nothing to do with sex. Love is fully transcendental. Actually, society has deprecated the word love. Because, love connects you to God. And anything which will really connect you to God society will start deprecating it. It will start eroding it. Society doesn't want you to love. But society wants you to marry. To create baby. That's why whole Asia has become just a baby factory. In west like USA it's not like that. There people really love. That's why they don't produce much babies. Secondly, sex and baby making can be fully exclusive if girls stop becoming mother. That's what is happening in the west. There girls don't want to become a mother at all. They want career and sex. But no kids. That's why they have less population. Have you ever thought why India has so much population? Because, India had child marriage. Still has in some places. Here girls always want to be mother. That's why India has so much population. But now educated Indian women are just following footprints of women in the west that is USA. Whatever was happening in USA in 70's is happening In India now. India is Just one or two generation behind USA. Now infact having kid's at early age is considered as something done by low society uneducated people. Just one generation back, girls used to become mother at the age of 16-17. That's why they were able to see their grandchildren marriage. My dad's sister is about 95 years old and she has seen her grand grand children. Because, they were used to marry early. They were used to procreate and multiply more as compared to today's educated women. That was the importance of child marriage. If society has to sustain then child marriage should be employed. If you give more education and freedom to woman they would simply stop becoming mother. That's what happened in USA. There is a possibility that USA can face significant reduction in their population. And people from India and china - that is from east will rule USA one day. Because east has so many people. The reason they don't want to become mother is they don't feel like having sex after becoming mother. Because they taste something higher. That is the taste of giving birth. Motherhood is the real feminism. Real feminism is not to wear low waist jeans and tight tops without dupatta. Lol. But is to become a mother. But, they want to have sex. That is why USA has more number of perverted woman than any other country. And India is simply following US footprints.

In the Hindi movie hero says to her mistress - "I love you". Basically, he is just lying and fooling her. His love is fully carnal and fleshly. He can love any other woman of the same reason he is loving her.

Marriage happens with 1 single person. Love happens with whole humanity, with whole creation. You can't say I love this guy but not you. That means you don't love him also. You are just fooling him.

Jesus said - Love is God. He is rightly saying. The love he is talking is universal love. Otherwise, if love is marriage then whole earth would had filled by people like Jesus and Buddha and Mahavir. But unfortunately, the world is full of morons. Full of flesh seekers. I tell you - for thousands of year society is not able to raise it's consciousness more than Flesh. It ends at Flesh level. The love I am talking is at soul level. Hardly anyone is able to do that. That's one reason we have so less number of enlightened being. Jesus was infact not even married (according to new testament) and no one the earth knows about love more than Jesus. So, how can love is marriage? It can't be. Marriage is a social compromisation that society had made so that everyone gets one partner. It's not a solution, it's a compromisation. Love is the solution. Marriage is the compromisation. However, marriage can be the doorway to love. That's true. That I agree.

If you hate or pity even a single human being that means you don't love anyone. Love has to be applied to everyone irrespective of his/her nature.

An ethical question

Say there is a girl. Her parents and only brother love her a lot. They send her outside to study. It's for the first time the girl is ever away from home. She sees a new world. New guys in her class. By the time she finishes her 4 year engg study she develop an intimate relationship with a guy. The guy is from her college only. A good guy. Handsome and intelligent. So is the girl. A perfect couple you can say. Both are happy dating, mating, singing all *ing you can imagine. Both joined same company.

There her parents is totally unaware of this relationship her daughter has developed. Her dad has a very nice guy in his mind who hails from same cast who is equally or more smart and handsome as her daughter's BF. He asks daughter to marry him. But daughter love her college guy who is not even from her cast. Her parents and brother can't imagine her to marry anyone outside the cast. Lets without analysing assume that's how it is. Her family is adamant like Rock. And infact they are right in their own way. Now what should her daughter do? Should she disobey her parents her society and marry her BF. Or should she obey her parents and marry where they want?

She is thinking if I disobey my father then that's value of a father? He loves me a lot. He took so much hassle to bring me at this position. But if I obey my father then what about all those events I had with her BF. All those exchange of notes, practising together of Hindi dramatics, late night roaming in the college streets, they way he gave me a rose on v-day, watching casino royal together, and blah blah blah...you can add more you can think...

Should I disobey my family and marry him? That's what she is thhinking. Help her.